Counselor / Evaluator

I went to the counselor the second lawyer suggested. If I would have spoken to the people from my church first, I would have been more prepared. The counselor their told me she would not send anyone to her, for she has helped destroy a lot of family situations. I also found out her family life was a mess as well.

I entered with hope, but it soon turned to dispair. I tried to tell this person I was being forever undermined and my time was encroached upon, but she would not listen. In fact she participated in the undermining. I called her a few times from home and she had returned my calls as well. My number was in the book.

When school was about to start I told her that I could not attend as often because I was starting a teaching job. I asked her to call me if anything came up and she agreed. A few months later I asked my daughter if she was still seeing ____ and my daughter's reply, " What's it to you?"  I was busy with  my first teaching job and did not pay too much attention to this. I was getting used to disrespect, undermining..... sadly.  Then one night I got a call from her father telling me he would have me arrested the following day if I did not have my dughter at the drop off point in time. He said this would happen in front of my students if necessary. I was shocked.  My daughter was hime and knew what he had said to me and added, " You deserve to be arrested." I called the police and asked if they would actually do this and they said no. A couple of days later I received conciliation papers in the mail. They stated I did not take my daughter to the right church ( he had not vene been brought up with any kind of religion) and that I refused to go to counseling.  Now remember, I was the one who asked for the counseling to begin with. I saw that increased saddness in my daughter's life and knew that it was so emotionally abisive to pressure a child to pick one parent over the other.

So I called this counselor to ask her what was going on and she would NOT return my call. I also found out that she had written a court report for the scheduled mediation even though I was not a participant. It took several calls then a  letter from my lawyer for her to respond.  Her excuse... she said she did not have my number even though she had called me and that it was in the book.  When I saw her face to face I asked her, " How can you write a report when I have not even been involved." She said, " Don't you trust me?"

I guess I was naive, because these incidents still shocked me, paralyzed me to a certain point because I did not have the energy to take action against her. Eight years later I tried, but it was too late. And besides, what kind of morals and ethics do the people have that one reports these people too?